Trust yourself to know when something is wrong

When you feel a mistake has been made – don’t wait until the disaster to say – I had a feeling something wasn’t right.

Try and develop early alarm bells – those inner warning systems that tell you when your rights have been not been respected, when something feels “wrong” or when you have just become moody or unhappy. So knowing what is going on in your is the first step.

 Now look around you at other people – people you live with, people you work with… Clients, contractors, suppliers.

When you see someone upset – who is usually happy and fun to be around – and you suspect someone else is upsetting them, talk to them, try and find out if you can help. Too often people try and stay clear of an upset person when they need some care. Be someone who reads the body language and says something first – not last or never at all.

I am working on a project about elder abuse and can see that over time many older people lose their ability to speak out about something not right. They become less assertive over time, allowing people around them to make decisions for them. Ultimately they get stripped of their rights.

I wonder if we all have a point where we want to give in to someone else’s demands, because we have lost our fight, lost our direction and lost our drive.

What’s the best advice we can use? Keep asking questions. Don’t just accept a situation – find out what/why/when – and how does that make you feel?

If you do not feel good – so something about it.

Read more in Eve’s book Rewrite Your Life! by Penguin Books and see the DVD Successful Thinking Habits or the wide range of DVD resources available atwww.7dimensions.com.au.